Let’s face it, this has been a trying time. Staying positive is not always easy, and may not feel realistic. Science teaches us our brains are wired for negativity because negativity supports the “fight or flight response” humans need to survive. However, negativity just makes us feel awful. Science also teaches us our brains can be “re-wired” to positivity. When we focus on positive thoughts, positive aspects in our lives, and have an “attitude of gratitude”, new neurons fire and new neural pathways connect. Soon, the positive attitude we’ve had to work at becomes a natural way of thinking and we begin to feel better.
As adults, our attitude greatly affects our children. They easily pick up on our negative or positive emotions and they will emulate the feelings we put out into their world. Practice gratitude with your children, pray, play games, go for walks, read and color with them. Reassure them this time will pass, and we will get through it.
Remember, it’s okay to have a bad day. I had a bad day on Wednesday. I was just sad. Governor Dewine was talking about his plans for schools when the next school year starts and the thought of school not going back to “normal” in August really hit me hard. Paul noticed my poor attitude almost immediately and asked if I wanted to go for a walk. I didn’t really want to and it was a bit chilly, but the look on his face didn’t give me much of an option. We set off on a walk and he started asking me questions. “How was your day Mom? What do you want for dinner? What was your favorite thing to do when you were my age? Did you see that bird Mom? Do you want to watch an episode of Home Town when we get home?” By the time we made it back to our street I was laughing and smiling and I thanked Paul for walking with me. He looked at me with a grin and said “You’re welcome Mom, I’m glad my plan worked. You're in a better mood now.” I couldn’t help but laugh because once again my 9- going on 90-year-old son taught me a lesson.
It's OK to honor your negative emotions, give yourself time to be sad or disappointed. Then find the good, focus on a positive future and keep moving forward.
Hang in There!!
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